Joree & John’s Story

We are Joree Rose, MA, LMFT & Dr. John Schinnerer and we both believed in the fairy tale. And we both ended up divorced. After marrying, and then ending our relationship, with our high school sweethearts, we never thought that we’d find someone to love again.

Our bubble had been burst in believing that the ultimate love was possible.

We both spent time dating, but never found the right one. Dating provided the opportunity to learn much about ourselves, and what we wanted and needed in relationship, and how to be more discerning.

And then, one fateful day, Joree and John connected on Tinder. Yes, Tinder!

Eager John asked Joree out that very evening, however they decided to meet for lunch the very next day.

Joree went to bed that night reading a psychology magazine (yes, we are that into seeking as much knowledge as we can get), that was talking about couples therapy. One of the therapists they were talking about was John Gottman (probably the world’s leading researcher on relationships, and whom Joree has trained under) and the other was someone who Joree had never heard of, Susan Johnson.

The next day, Joree walks into the restaurant to find John sitting there (of course he was, cause he’s always early and she’s always late!) reading the same Susan Johnson book mentioned in the article Joree was reading the night before!! Seriously, talk about synchronicity!! We can’t make this up!

From that very first moment, they both knew it was a special connection. That lunch was like a tennis match – each throwing back and forth all the professional interests and experiences they had in common. Before lunch was over, they set up coffee for the next morning; it was the first time they both had set up a second date before the first date was over.

And the rest, as they say, is history.

And while it seemed like a match made in heaven, it hasn’t come without challenges. Unfortunately, much to our chagrin, we are still human.

And despite teaching these tools to our clients (John works mainly with men teaching them the skills to be happy and successful at work and at home, through role modeling evolved masculinity and emotional awareness; Joree works mainly with women in identifying who they are outside their roles as wife and mother, helping them to get unstuck from what’s not working in their life to journey forward to true authenticity and happiness), we still get stuck.

Yes, we still get stuck.

And even when we get stuck, we know that there is always the possibility of getting unstuck, and it’s holding onto that possibility that keeps us stepping towards the relationship and making the repair attempts until we are back in alignment.

If we can do it, you can do it.

And the ROI is worth gold!

We have The Ultimate Relationship! It’s full of:

  • Mutual respect
  • Deep love and admiration
  • Incredible connection
  • Lots of laughter
  • The best sex of our lives
  • A love of adventure and travel
  • Similar parenting styles
  • Shared goals and values
  • Intimacy, vulnerability and empathic communication
  • Growth and expansion, both individually and as a couple
  • Forgiveness and letting go of the small stuff
  • Integrity, honesty and openness
  • Authenticity and friendship

How would your life be if these were the qualities of your relationship???

About Dr. John Schinnerer

Dr. John Schinnerer coaches men to perform at their peak from the boardroom to the bedroom. He also leads retreats for men and couples around the world. Dr. John graduated from U.C. Berkeley with a Ph.D. in educational psychology. He was an expert consultant for Pixar’s Inside Out. He has spoken to organizations such as Stanford Medical School, U.C. Berkeley, Kaiser Permanente, Sutter Health, Gap and UPS. He has been featured in national media such as U.S. News and World Report, Readers Digest, and SELF Magazine. His areas of expertise range from high performance, to stress management, to positive psychology, to anger management, to creating happy, thriving relationships. Dr. John hosts a podcast to help men evolve, The Evolved Caveman. Over 10,000 people have taken his online anger management course. He recently recorded micro courses on anger management and forgiveness for Simple Habit; they have been listened to over 80,000 times in the first 6 months. Visit TheEvolvedCaveman.com to learn more about Dr. John and his offerings.

About Joree Rose

Joree Rose, MA, LMFT, is a licensed marriage and family therapist, transformation coach, mindfulness and meditation teacher, author, speaker, and she also leads mindfulness retreats around the world. Joree has helped thousands of people to live happier and more fulfilling lives through living with greater awareness and compassion, allowing them to decrease their stress, anxiety and shed unhealthy habits, patterns and mindsets. Joree is host of the podcast ‘Journey Forward® with Joree Rose’ and has authored the newly released A Year of Gratitude, Daily Moments of Reflection, Grace and Thanks as well as 2 mindfulness books, Squirmy Learns to be Mindful and Mindfulness, It’s Elementary. Joree has been featured in prominent media outlets such as Oprahmag.com, NBCnews.com, Business Insider, KTLA News, and so many more!

Why Love Isn’t Enough…

Love Isn’t Enough is born from the understanding that while love is the essential foundation to any relationship, it’s not the thing to carry you through when life gets in the way, when challenges arise or the sh*t hits the fan. Conflict, disconnection and miscommunication are all normal – albeit difficult – components of any relationship, even solid ones. And so the question is, what do you do when you can’t quite get back on track, and instead accumulate a mountain (or a mole hill) of emotional paper cuts? You need a set of tools to draw upon to get you back to your desired state…you know, that vision you had in your mind when you first fell in love.
While we knew this, having been trained to support others on in their lives and relationships for our entire career, it all came to a head in the midst of our own relationship breakdown, which led to a massive breakthrough. We realized the missing component from traditional couples therapy: there must be an ongoing interplay of doing the inner work on yourself, as well as developing a strong set of relational skills, including how to repair after a confit, effectively communicate and turn towards the relationship more often than not.

We found that what was getting in our way was not necessarily one another, but the unresolved issues of our past that created narratives, mindsets and habits that didn’t fully allow us to lean into safety, trust or vulnerability, making those small wounds or disconnects appear to be even bigger.

Our healing journey not only resulted in the strongest our relationship has even been, but a passion to guide couples who feel hopeless, disconnected and resigned to reignite the spark, safety and trust that they once had.

We are here to guide you in how to do the ongoing interplay of doing the inner work of healing yourself (even if you think you have nothing to heal, we promise – by the mere fact that you’re human – that there are things in the way), as well as gaining and integrating the top, research-backed relationship tools. It’s truly a winning combination.

So, if you are committed yet stuck, love one another but not always like one another, and are ready to get out of the rut of disconnection you’ve been in, then you’re in the right place.

You’ve got the awareness to know that something is lacking in your relationship, and we invite you to practice compassion in the knowing that relationships are hard and that love isn’t enough. And if you have the desire and capacity to do the inner and outer work, we promise you can be the best partner you can be for the person you love, creating the relationship that you both desire and deserve.

John brings his expertise on positive psychology, anger management, masculinity and on the way men have been socialized which has not primed them for healthy, lasting and connected relationships.

Joree brings her passion and knowledge in effective communication skills, understanding how core family dynamics from childhood are showing up in your relationship, how to rewiring mindsets, habits and patterns, and how mindfulness is the answer to everything.
And together, we bring our experience from a combined 50 years of education, training and application in our professions, combined with the role modeling of how we implement these tools with one another, along with very honest vulnerability from our own relationship, to be the guides you wish you had years ago. And the good news is, it’s never to late to cultivate the relationship of your dreams.